Secret of long lasting friendship

“Blessed is the man who has the gift of making friends. It involves many things, but above all, it’s the power of going out of one’s self and seeing and approaching whatever is noble and living in the other man.”

— Thomas Hughes

We all know that, in order to forge a lasting friendship with anyone, we should cultivate certain human qualities. In the first place, we have to remain loyal to our friend through thick and thin. We have to stand by him or her through both prosperity and adversity. Magnanimity, sincerity,  unconditional love  , smiling face are few good qualities that nurture true friendship. 

 Here are few Tips given by Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji for long lasting friendship :

👉Not demanding anything from the friends, and telling them I’m here to support you. 

❌Don’t demand #love. When you demand love you are destroying love.

So you should never demand love or attention from people. If you are there only to give love and attention, then anyone will feel comfortable with you. But if you are expecting something then you are putting people in a very uncomfortable position. 

❌when you do something good for them then don't keep on talking about it. 

❌Nobody wants to be under obligation, so don't make people feel obligated.

❌Also, don't make people feel small

👉Friendship has two things. You may feel it's very confusing. On one hand I'm saying don't want anything from them, and on the other hand I'm saying, ask them for something to keep their self respect. That is the skill. They are completely two opposite positions. 

 👍🏻Keeping the self #respect of the other person is number one and 

❌second is not demanding anything from them.

Just keep these two things in your mind:

-👉Firmness with humility:

Do not assert your own ego by saying you've never taken anything from anybody or don't want anything from anybody. It may be true, but you should not come out like that. Do you see what I'm saying? So first firmness with humility.

What is #humility? Saying, 'Oh, I'm so humble', is not humility. Its firmness with humility.

- 👉Dignity with cordiality: Many people who are very dignified they keep so aloof. They are not warm and cordial. People who are warm and cordial they don't have any dignity. They just look so mushy mushy and wiggly wiggly, like noodles. Just imagine noodles all joined together, you can't even take it in a fork, it's like a paste. That is of no use. Noodles are a good example. They are soft yet separate, not mushy nor hard. That middle path: cordiality with #dignity, this is the secret of friendship.

👉Whenever a person is down #uplift them. When you go to a true friend with a problem and you feel lighter when you walk away from them, then that's a good friend, that is good company. However, if you have a problem and you go to a friend but you come away with your problem appearing much bigger than you ever thought, then that's not a good friend.

👉#Friendship based just on needs doesn't last long. However, when it comes from a space of sharing, the whole world will befriend you.

👉To come out of #loneliness you make friends, but coming together in knowledge is rare. Be a friend in knowledge and uplift each other.

Jai Gurudev 🙏🏻

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