Setbacks, separation, physical or sexual abuse, violence, losing a loved one, a sense of failure, realizing one’s shortcomings, financial losses—these can all leave behind deep scars that fester. At worst, not healing them can lead to a vicious cycle of violence or self-harm, or affect your mental health, relationships, and social connections, making it impossible to lead a normal life.
Gurudev says “It is not people who hurt you. It is your own foolishness, your own mind, your own vulnerability and your own emotions that entangle you, and make you feel hurt.”
How do you let go of past hurts and move on when you experience heartache or emotional pain?
Practical tools and time-tested spiritual wisdom offered by Gurudev can help us to heal our wounds , or at least significantly loosen its grip over our hearts and minds. Holding on to the past can be a conscious decision but so also can moving forward be one.
👉 Accepting pain and hurt as part of love will free you from this unnecessary suffering. Ask yourself this question—who hurts you the most? The answer is likely to be parents, children, spouses, siblings, or close friends. Hurt is there wherever there is love—they go hand in hand.
👉If someone hurts you by their speech, it helps to take a step back and question their reaction. Gurudev offers a powerful tip to overcome hurt of this nature—analyze a negative quality with your head and praise from all your heart.
👉“We exaggerate problems,” Gurudev shares. “If a mistake has been made or there is some suffering, some misery, we blow it up beyond its dimensions. If a few people get sick in town, we say, ‘everyone in town is sick. Everyone is always sick here.’
👉 Expectations—whether met or unmet—lead to more expectations, making you prone to hurting all the time.
👉There are two major things that you feel when you are hurt – lack of communication and lack of understanding. Another reason to feel hurt, if you want to count it, is being oversensitive to irrelevant or ephemeral things. Events are all ephemeral – they are all moving and impermanent. Everything is changing. You don’t need to become oversensitive, “Oh, he said this thing to me, she said this thing to me!”
Now, if someone is trying to physically hurt you, you just be careful and equip yourself. I am not saying that if someone comes to hurt you, you fall at their feet. No, you have to be intelligent and protect yourself.
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👉My dear, wake up and see, is there an intention in them to hurt you? You need to see things from the other side as well.
👉If someone has scolded you or used harsh words that have hurt you, and they have done it with a very good intention, then you can only thank them.
👉If someone has hurt you intentionally, you should know that they are sick.
Someone who has hurt you is pained. They have scars and are unhappy. They can only share what they have. They are hurt and they are sharing the hurt with you. You think they are doing it purposely, but, in fact it is because they do not have happiness inside them. They are wounded. What is required for a wounded person? Compassion. You have to be compassionate to those who hurt you, because they are hurt and wounded themselves.
👉Those who are causing hurt to you are ignorant. They don’t know that their actions are hurting others. They are ignorant and arrogant. You can only feel sorry for them and hope that someday they will become intelligent. Wish for them to be more sensitive.
👉 The hurtful memories do not go away easily because we tend to revisit them again and again, without much awareness. You justify your anger and resentment and tend to impose the emotions you experienced back then, to a current life situation as well. This makes it difficult to break the loop of anger. The past is like a dream. And once you have turned that corner, you have the free will to not relive the past again and again.
👉 Without holding onto whose mistake it was, see a mistake as just a mistake. This will help you culture a mind that is non-complaining and pleasant.
When you see a mistake as theirs, you place blame on someone and get angry at them. When you see a mistake as yours, you dive into guilt and self-flagellation. Just like you would like to be forgiven when you hurt someone, similarly—to save your mind—you can practice forgiving others who hurt you. This exercise allows you to retain peace of mind.
👉It is just karma. You had to get this hurt and if not this person then someone else would have given it to you. We must have caused some hurt to someone in the past and Nature is bringing it back to us now. When you know that it's just karma being repaid, you feel settled.
👉 The beautiful sutra from the shiva sutras (a text of profound knowledge said to be shared by Lord Shiva, a Hindu deity, with his cohort Goddess Parvati) describes the whole world as a drama; the situations that happen in your life are nothing more than the scenes of a play. Wake up and see that all the relationships, all the people in your life, are there for a specific period of time and that the only thing that is going to last forever is your eternal self. Expanding your awareness and looking at life from a broader perspective will bring you out of pain.
👉It is being done to make you strong. Nature is bringing this to you so that you become strong, so that you discover strength and power within If someone has hurt you intentionally, you should know that they are sick.
Wake up and see that there is none other than the One, and the One comes to you in many forms. It is all for your growth, well-being, and happiness. The universe is so loving, and compassionate towards you. If you can keep this wisdom in your
heart, nobody can hurt you.
👉 Once you start meditating, you will be able to witness all the pain and anger dissolve away. Meditation brings clarity of perception and expanded awareness. When we are in a balanced state of mind, we are able to see beyond others’ words and actions without getting caught up in them.
👉 Forgiveness and compassion, combined with the present moment, are the superpowers you already have inside to help you heal the hurt.
Jai gurudev
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